After Holiday Downs | 5 Steps to Existing Ordinarily

So, it’s all over. The Holiday Hustle has finally rolled to a thunderous stop. So, what do you do now? Through the horrendous holiday hustle that is thrust upon society by Economy, Media and even Family and Friends, it is easy to forget that ordinary life should be taken quite simply. I have found in my older years that I refuse the idea of allowing this time of year to be any different than any other normal ordinary day. By getting swept up in all the emotion and stress that a real good traditional holiday can bring can really throw one on and right off a major roller-coaster ride. After the ride it is easy to find yourself spinning with confusion and a feeling of lost emotional sensation.

During the first few months of every New Year the populace of dieters and new aerobic, yoga and exercise fanatics are pushing out the walls of public gyms. The new found faithful are filling church pews on Sundays looking for energy and revitalization. The streets bustle with job seekers determined to have a new way of life and make this the best year ever… and Retailers are looking for the next big hype in Marketing and Advertising. Each individual as well as entity is on a mission to conquer the last year. Their drive comes from this insidious idea that a person only gets a few chances in a lifetime to turn their destiny, change their path or govern chance. Living with that notion can really drive a person to ultimate sadness.

Early January tends to be a tremendously grim time of year for a lot of people. Actually, statistics show that just a few weeks into a New Year, some have already started skipping days on their New Years Resolutions. So many things seem to become bleak as the winter weathers strains the body, holidays strain the wallets and the extra travel and winter storms strain our homes and vehicles… It seems by mid-January, most folks are broke, stifled, exhausted, and completely drained. Some suffer from that inevitable cold that never seems to go away and for others with lower immune systems, end up passing into the after life, leaving families to mourn loss on top of New Year stress factors.

But, there is a way to get through the Winter Blues. As a matter of fact, there is a way to get through those blues at anytime of year, but it takes practice and lots of it. For some, it’s harder than for others. But, if you take time everyday to remember these five things, it will put things in perspective and make dealing with life just a little easier.

#1 Each Day is a New Day

Some have forgotten that with each new sunrise, it is a new day. God promises us that we are renewed each and every day! Which means, that with every day, you get a chance to renew your thinking, your way of life, drop old habits and build new goals and dreams. Don’t wait for the date to start your goals, start them today! This type of thinking can offer hope and newness to every experience you go through.

#2 Failing Brings Growth

It wasn’t on the day you were born that you walked. Nor was it the second or third! As with any young-ling, you had to learn over time how walk just a few steps. And you probably fell down many times before you got the hang of it. With that being said, appreciate the times you try to do something and fail. Use the experiences to learn and to teach others, be encouraged because now you will how to do things better the next time. Also, never expect different results from doing the same action twice and remember that there is always a second chance, so try, try again!

#3 Be Honest With Yourself

Take the time each day to evaluate what it is that you have set your mind to and focus on what its going to take to get there. If it is a big goal then break it down into a whole bunch of small step goals in order to achieve the big one! In other words, don’t shoot for the stars without a rocket. It is a great man who knows what he is up against and builds his army accordingly.  If you are a 55 year old man who has always wanted to be an astronaut, you might not be realistic if you wake up one morning and decide to set that goal… First decide on what you want to do, then decide if its obtainable for you. Once you have established your not setting yourself up for failure you can move on to setting goals.

#4 Take it One Step at a Time

Be honest now… How many times have you set yourself up with a resolution only to find yourself at the end of another year setting the same goal? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us! Find a way to set yourself small step goals each day, week or month and then you will see some achievement. By setting small step goals and taking one step at a time it will be easier to obtain your goals and move on to success. If you simply say I am going to lose 30 lbs this year, you are setting yourself up to look for a 30 lbs loss which may take a long time. But, if you say, I am going to lose 5 lbs this month, you will be encouraged when you see a minor change in your weight! You will not suffer from the inadequacies that we tend to put on ourselves when we don’t see progress. These types of failing feelings can ultimately stop us from reaching our final goal.

#5 Live Everyday on Holiday

It is not just once or twice a year that we should enjoy our families, appreciate our wellness or spring for that perfect gift. Think of the good times we enjoy during the holiday seasons and work on making every day just as special. It shouldn’t take fuzzy warm commercials to remind you that time with your friends and family is beneficial to your life. Reach out and touch the people around you each day. Show that you are glad they are around you and you wouldn’t have any other way. Don’t let the Holiday Season be the time you “make up for loss time”.

Reflect on the simple beautiful things in your life everyday and you will live a happier life. It doesn’t have to be difficult to see. Appreciate every day as a new chance to breathe differently, live differently and feel differently. Make the choice to be glad and you will be. Change your daily perspective and you’ll see a whole new way of looking at life.

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Coasting in Lag Time

I recently posted my frustrations of the waiting game, and decided I was tired of it… so gear up! Its time to move on! The lag time has given me time to think and offer some new thought to my otherwise dead inspirations. As an artist, I go through times of desperado trying to find new ideas, inspiration, or even lyrical madness; pushing for some kind of creative euphoria. The times have been bleak for such emotion when searching for excitement. But changing my perspective may have been the one thing I was missing out on.

Recently I have decided to move in a different direction. Letting things come to me rather than chasing them down… and although they have been slow times, I’ve have had quite a few wonderful new experiences. It has shown me exactly where I stand in the industry we so fondly refer to as the “Indie” Industry… Building a Reputation isn’t as hard as people daunt it to be.

The rumors have spread and I find myself sought after by a small but eclectic crowd… which feels nice. Realizing that folks are “missing” your performances and your talent makes you wonder why they think you have gone away in the first place. You think to yourself, “Where did I go?” and then you realize… you had given up hope. The New Economy has put me in such a state of mind that I have learned too, as well as most of the folks around me, there is no major hope for ever becoming financially stable. But in this thought, this cannot mean that we stop our endeavors though, does it?

So, with a new “realistic” sense, I am driving forward into the unknown of my own destiny and search everyday for guidance from above and from within to simply seek what I can control and enjoy all at the same time. I guess its not for me to say whether or not I will be financially successful… as long as I have enjoyed my journey I will reap a benefit.

Who hit the Pause Button Again!

So, its been a good week of spreading the word on several different levels. The hopes to find a new project, open a new window or spark new idea has somehow been squashed by the constant loss of peoples interest. It seems though the whole world has hit the pause button on life.

There are many reasons why folks take their time in making decisions. Sometimes it’s to take and meditate on the change, other times it’s resource availability and then there is budget. Is it just me or am I not the only one who is terribly struggling financially! There are still dreamers in the world…. Though they are so stifled by the works of our created everyday lives that they find themselves unable to find a penny to put towards their ulterior motives! This economy has become so ridiculous!

Through time I have noticed that it seems people have accepted this notion so much that they are even okay with the basic fact that they can talk of future plans and make goals to reach them, but in the end they are perfectly okay with letting them go knowing they weren’t able to reach their highest potentials due to financial stability. And that even of the thought of creating an idea knowing damn well it will fail due to no financial support doesn’t bother them in the least bit.

I don’t understand the mentality of this conversion from the very beginning. I realize it is one thing to talk of an idea, but to make grandiose plans, schedule appointments, slave at rehearsals and even push the go button only to completely drop out only shows an individuals integrity to the core. I never believed in starting something you weren’t willing to finish.

So, for future reference… don’t bring the cards to the table unless you plan on shuffling them, dealing them and sticking around to see who wins. If you can’t play the whole game… then what’s the point of sitting down at all? You are the only one who can know your ability, see your potential and go for it! No one can make your dreams happen but you… Others can only support you in the journey, and usually this does not include financial support.